We perform this simple test with two persons; one looking at the meter [which has to be able to read low- and high amps], the other one pulling out the fuses one-by-one, the first looking for a amp-drop.
I think Tom did this already, as his amp-loss with the car just sitting there simply is too high.
When you haven't did this already Tom, you could ask Wendy to help you out watching the DMM [after all you're the master of the house now..], to find what's eating up that current.
Worst case scenario; a partially short in your cable-harness....we've had those many times in the old cars at work.
Also in motorcycles this type of amp-draw-problems is more common and sometimes very hard to find.
Finding a partially short with freeze spray will save you a lot of time as it obviously will produce a little bit of heat.
Performing the simple test described above with the DMM should point you in the right direction. [I have been forced to completely take apart a cable-harness once to find a wire that was only making contact with a few strands on a bike that spontaniously stalled many times when driving...

Good luck
Nico