Been awhile, loooooong story. The short story, I built the engine for my Porsche less than 1000k miles and I blew it up.

Now my questions.
The alpine head has crossover settings, the amps have crossover settings, the components have another crossover, and the EQ can cut frequencys on top of all of it. I am trying to figure out how to get the best balance over the whole bandwidth. I am pretty good at making things more complicated than they need to be.
I am running 1 6.5 rsd component set and 2 rsdc 12 woofers.
I have all xs amps wich come stock with a 80hz crossover I think. I started from scratch today, tuning. I used the headunit to set the crossover for the components. I tried 80 then 100 then 125. I am a beginner keep in mind, I have found the higher I set the crossover the louder I can go with little distortion, but then I get a dead spot in the middle. So I set the woofer from 80 to 120 to fill the gap, it does a little, but not exactly. Then I tried from 120 to 160 on the sub and it got too muddy (is that a good word for it)
Then I tried overlapping the highs set at 100 and the sub at 120hz
I am driving myself crazy here.
Then I started using the crossover on the amps 80 for low and 80 for high, the rsd 6.5s do not like 80 and they pop with too much volume. Now I am using a combo of head crossover and amp crossover, I cant even here a difference.
I know every system is different, depends on the vehicle, placment, etc, etc.
Where would you start ???